What is the ruling of the Sharia on someone who lives in Spain while his wife is in Morocco? I mean. don't be surprised.

It's okay.

He is asking, he said: How long have you been away from her? It's not about my own separation, my wife is right here with me.

Speak about your own situation, not mine. I mean, how long is it allowed for a man to stay away from his wife?

Well, this is something women ask about.

The purpose of marriage is to protect the man and protect the woman.

The issue is not something that only concerns the man.

I got married to protect myself. She also got married to protect herself.

So if this marriage does not achieve its intended result, which is protection, then this is a problem.

Understood? So you see, this is something your wife asked about. If you stay away for a year, is there no problem? If you say it's a problem, then it is a problem, you have a problem.

And Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, gave a ruling.

That a husband should not stay away from his wife for more than four months.

And this is ila', the limit of ila', when a husband swears not to have relations with his wife.

And every adult husband who is accountable, and intercourse is possible for him, has sworn to abstain from intercourse with a wife who is not nursing for two months.

Two months for a slave, and four for a free man, that is the rule, and the imam enforces it if the free woman or the owner of the slave woman brings it up.

After consideration, if he refuses, then expiation or an irrevocable and prohibitive divorce. In short, meaning.

If the woman is asking for you, the maximum you can stay away from her is four months, and if she is not asking for you.

By Allah, what a bad man you are, not being asked for. This is the problem, you need to rethink this matter.

Think about this. What kind of marriage is it where the father,

if he is absent, is not missed,

and if he comes, no one is happy about his arrival? What is this problem? People have gotten used to you not being there. When you are not around, they don't feel that anything is missing at home.

And when you come, all you do is nag: sit down, get up, you go, you come back.

And decisions are made when you are absent, and you are not consulted even when you are present. You should not be like this, you should not be like this. Remember once,

something—subhan Allah—the conditions of people are strange. I went for umrah years ago.

I met a man who was supposed to come to Morocco and work in Saudi Arabia, he's Moroccan, but the plane left before him and he missed it.

We took a taxi, heading to Jeddah with a group of us.

He was telling me, he has been working in Saudi Arabia for eleven years.

One month.

He goes to Morocco for one month, spends it there, and eleven months in Saudi Arabia.

He said to me: ten years, or eleven years, and I am married to my wife.

You still haven't completed a year with her, because it's only one month a year of marriage. So eleven months, eleven years of marriage, that's eleven months with his wife.

He said, when you go home, when you go to Morocco, guests come to visit me. This. this.

Let me tell you something.

Why does this person do this?

Because he wants to earn money, he works to gather what will benefit his children and his family in Morocco.

That's nice. Now you will benefit them with money, you'll build the house, buy the car, buy the washing machine, buy the television, and buy them all that, but you are not there.

You are not there.

Sometimes, the father is not able to be there for the children. The children need their father.

You are there. What they need is there, and the most important thing, I mean the presence of their father, is missing.

Don't put all your effort into one side, a little here and a little there.